Category: Mamma bears

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What to tell a mom today …

Posted on by Judy

All day I’m busy.

I do not stop from the moment my eyes are open.

Mental load

I’m constantly teaching, watching for negatives, alert for danger, setting an example, worrying about my children, my husband, my home and trying to be present whilst also micro-managing every aspect of my life and multi -tasking the entire day to fit in my own needs.

Physical load

On top of the mental load, there is also the very real physical load mother’s carry.

Hundreds of cups of tea, never ending meals and snacks and not to mention the cleaning… I am always cleaning something.

Who cares?

And do you know who notices ?

No one!

Do you know who cares?

No one?

Do you know who praises me? Who says Thank you ?

Yes, you guessed it …

No one!

Not alone

But

I am not alone in this. I am joined by every other woman who has a home and family.

Every new mom hoping their child’s green poo is normal and every grandmother who still worries if she should have let little Billy cry it out or if her child’s inabity to stay in a stable relationship at 35 is her doing!

Yes, as moms we carry the unspoken mental and physical load of raising our families, working, looking after our home, being a partner, a good friend and still trying to remember who we are.

And more often than not we cry into showers and worry late into the night if we are doing it right …

Are we being good moms?

Judgmental motherhood

Surprisingly,

Although we know we are not alone in our overwhelmed and busy mom/wife life.

Although we wished someone knew how we felt and saw all we did….we loudly and competitively judge the mom next door.

We judge her for her parental differences.

We judge her for her beliefs, her cultural differences and the choices she makes believing they are the best for her family as she cries in the shower hoping she is doing this mom thing right.

We judge Mary for not breastfeeding and Sally from church for still co-sleeping.

We look at Jill disapprovingly, whispering how her child was expelled and to the lady in the bus we shake our head whilst her toddler screams through it’s 5th temper tantrum of the morning and we tsk! under our breath judging them for being bad parents.

Change of mindset

How strange our behaviour!

We long for approval, support and acknowledgement and yet, as moms …as women …we are the first to criticize and judge another mother who only wants the same as us.

A mom with the same worries, the same fears and the same tired black marks under he eyes as she tie up her unwashed hair into a mom bun.

This seems illogical and totally counter productive.

What if instead of judging and running down mothers we reached into the pockets of our empathy and became their greatest supporters?

What if we changed our mindset to see ourselves in that new mom, to identify our children in the toddler throwing yet another tantrum, to support the mom walking a hard journey the way we would want to be supported.

What if we stopped judging and started praising?

What if we looked at every fellow mother and told her what a great mother she really is.

Posted in Mamma bears

How to be a mom boss babe and build your empire

Posted on by Judy

As a mom at home, I have tried many different ways to earn an income and supplement our household budget,whilst staying at home to be a full time mother and for many years a homeschooling mom.

Work from home

There are so many great options out there for moms wanting to do this :

  • Direct selling– direct selling offers you the option to work as a sales agent and sell the products from their catalogues to your families or friends whilst earning a commission on each sale. They often provide training, on going support, incentives, a start up kit and monthly catalogues. Some of the direct sale’s companies I’ve worked with over the years have been Dk books; Justine cosmetics; Avon cosmetics; Tupperware, Smile educational toys and Acorn kids products.
  • Drop shipping – drop shipping is the process of selling products for a company on your own online shop without holding stock. You earn commission and the company ship the product to your customer after they recieve your payment.
  • Buy and sell– the internet has made it incredibly easy for moms to start online shops and you can use your knowledge and passions to buy products and resell at a higher price.
  • Crafting – so many moms are talented and as we grow in motherhood so we learn new skills. Those gloves you knit or those tracksuits you make, you can sell. The cards you make or the biscuits you bake can all be sold at craft markets, online or on stores like etsy or Shopify.
  • Offer a service– are you a teacher, counselor, dog walker or gardener? Offering your services as a small business can also become an entrepreneurial business. You could do this via online lessons, classes and workshops.
  • Blogging or Influencing – bloggers and influencers are paid by brands to work with them, once you as a blogger or influencer have built up a solid reputation for yourself. As a blogger you can also sell advertising on your blog and work with affiliates to earn a passive income.

It’s a business

One of the first mistakes moms make is to call their entrepreneur efforts just a hobby or a little side line.

The first steps in business are to believe in yourself and your product.

So you need to change your mind frame to thinking like a boss babe who is building her empire.

Develop a boss babe mind frame

To do this…

  • Start by referring to your business as a company.
  • Invest the right amount of time each day to make it a success.
  • If you are not working through a registered company, register yourself as a company.
  • Open a business bank account to keep transactions separate from your household and personal accounts.
  • Get advise and knowledge on personal tax, business and sales tax, vat and tax nexus.

A tax nexus, for those new to the term, is a connection between taxing jurisdictions and a business that collects or pays tax.

Knowing your tax responsibilities as an individual and as a business, early can save you months of audits and fines later on.

  • Design a website and have social media accounts for your business.
  • Always carry business cards.
  • Market your business everywhere and watch the trends in your niche to make sure you are both following them and are ahead of them.
  • Network

Conclusion

There are many ways for moms to earn an income staying at home and even more to become an entrepreneur but it is vital to know your rights and responsibilities as a tax payer before launching your business.

Posted in Covid-19/ Coronavirus, Family Life, Family Time, Life with my bears, Mamma bears, Parenting

One day

Posted on by Judy

As I scrolled through my Facebook feed, I came across this beautiful reminder of where we are right now, as people, a country, the world.

I wanted to preserve these beautifully written words to one day look back one and remember to always be greatful for what we have.

One day

Author: unknown

A year the world will never forget.

A part of history our grandchildren and those that follow them will learn about in the years to come.

2020

– Lockdown started March 26, 2020, 00:00. – – – -We’re stuck in SA as all borders are closed, no flights in or out, except repatriation of visitors to their home countries

– Part 2 of SA “Lockdown” has also been announced and extended with another 2 weeks… Until April 30, 2020. However, this is only from level 5 to level 4.. still a long way to go.

– Cannot leave your house for any reason except for essential shopping or medical reasons.

– The petrol price is R13.76, the cheapest in a long time.

– School closed, some learners doing online classes.

– Self-isolation measures in place.

– Adhesive tape on the floors at grocery stores to keep shoppers 1m distance from each other.

– A limited number of people allowed inside stores, so queues are outside the store doors and inside too.

– Non-essential shops and businesses are closed. No alcohol or cigarettes for sale.

– All sports cancelled… Olympic games postponed to 2021.

– Concerts, tours, festivals, entertainment events cancelled. Some celebrities have done online performances.

– Weddings, family celebrations, holiday gatherings cancelled.

– Churches are closed.

– Beaches are closed.

– No visits with anyone outside your house.

– Children’s outdoor play parks are closed. May not go for a walk with your dog, run or cycle.

– Lack of masks and gloves in the country.

– Government closes the border for all non-essential trips.

– All flights based, locally and internationally on hold until Sept?

– People wear masks and gloves outside.

– Permits needed to be able to go to work (only workers who qualify level 4)

– Army and police in the streets to make sure no one is outside.

– Everyone gets sanitised when entering a shop. Home deliveries dropped at your gate, no personal contact in any form.

– Rand has weakened to R19,15 against the US dollar. R20,60 to the Euro. R12 to the Aussie Dollar. R23,16 against the GBP

– Repo rate the lowest in decades

This is the Novel Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic,

Why, am I writing this?

One a day, this will appear in my ” Facebook Memory,” and it will be an annual reminder that life is precious and that we should not take the things we love for granted. We have so much to be thankful for.

Be friendly, love each other and support where you can. ❤

Posted in All about Mamma bear, Mamma bears

The playdough dress

Posted on by Judy

As a mom at home I’m used to having little hands and noses wiped on me ALL day!

So often I’ll find a bit of paint or smudge of peanut butter sandwich on one or other part of my clothing.

It’s a mom thing right ?

So, yesterday morning I’m rushing to get out the door to attend an event by 8am.

As usual I always leave the house and Hamish ready for the day before I go anywhere. It’s a habit.

Getting ready

I neatened the house. Made everyone morning coffees and teas. Prepared Hamish a breakfast and a snack box and opened his playdough for him to play with while I ran upstairs and got dressed.

Slipping into my long mustard dress I felt good. Often too few adult outings in a week, leave me feeling like old mother Hubbard but here I stood flashing my inner diva.

Checked the hair, added a dash of colour to my lips and I was ready to go.

Time to play

I went downstairs and waited for Brent to come down.

Hamish was building red playdough characters and I stooped down to help him add some ears and legs to his oddly shaped giraffe.

Here’s where I made my first mistake. I gave him the playdough from a brand that’s a little too sticky and tends to leave itself EVERYWHERE!

Off I go

At last Brent was ready and I kissed Hamish who by now had hugged me a hundred times, before leaving him to play with his older sister.

And I was off to enjoy a breakfast event at the gorgeous Durbanville Hills wine estate.

My confidence was high. I felt good and I think I looked good. Ready to spend some adult time away from playdough and Lego and toy cars.

Diva in a mustard dress

I walked my way around the room, introducing myself and prided myself with my dress choice …

and then I looked down!

I wanted to die!

Could the floor just swallow me up already!

There on my beautiful Mustard hued dress were the teeniest tiniest fingerprints of smudged red playdough.

I was horrified.

How many people had seen my newly patterned dress. Could I just sit and hide throughout the rest of the event.

How had I missed it?

Self concious

And so there I sat in my self conscious thoughts when the one speaker spoke about breaking the “supermom” concepts.

And I listened to her words and realised there I was worrying about how I would be judged by others but forgetting what those little red stains meant.

You see, my imperfect dress reflected me so much more authentically than any words I uttered that morning.

They represented the part of me that holds my heart …I am a mom!

Red stains

That means that regardless of what the world demands of me there are little hands that need me more. Those stains reflect my heart, they show that little arms hugged me before I left and show that I wasn’t too busy to stop and play.

A mark of love

Somewhere, in the silence of my thoughts, my mind became aware that each mark was a stain of love.

Somewhere I stopped worrying about the judgement of the women around me. I stopped obsessing about the marks that were so small I’m sure very few people noticed and somewhere a calm peace fell over me as I acknowledged that each little fingerprint stain in their perfect imperfection show the world that a little boy happily wiped his hands all over his mothers dress not to clean his hands but because he loved her so much he wanted to stop his play to give her a hug.

Posted in Brands we love, Mamma bears

BRAMLEY REVEALS MINI FACELIFT & NEW PRODUCT EXTENSIONS

Posted on by Judy

Proudly South African skin care and cosmetic brand, Bramley recently announced the launch of their brand new look, redesigned logo, and new product developments.

Clean, simple and elegant.

The solid oval shape of their logo remained as it reflects stability and cohesiveness, whilst the newly designed logo and modern font with its thick and thin lines represent a combination of both masculinity and femininity.

New Products

Following the success of new product developments in both the Magnolia and Cocoa Heaven ranges, Bramley has extended their product offering in their Lavender range to match those in the above mentioned ranges.

With heart-notes that open to reveal rustic greenery and wonderful sweet musk, the relaxing scent of lavender is said to be stress reducing and is a wonderful fragrance for all year round.

Containing powerful antioxidant and antimicrobial properties, Bramley’s Lavender range promises to be relaxing and therapeutic offering a calming herbal aroma.

In addition to the existing range that consists of tissue oil, talcum powder,
roll-on, and a foam bath, consumers can now look forward to the recently introduced lavender scented body
lotion, body butter and hand and nail cream.

BE YOU

In addition to the product extension of their Lavender range, Bramley also welcomes a new product offering to their BE YOU range. Just in time for the holidays, the limited-edition Be Happy and Be Real Body Spritzers (R19.99) will leave you smelling divine and feeling refreshed.

Designed for the young and vibrant individual,the BE YOU spritzer offers a gorgeous floral blend of jasmine and gardenia, whilst the BE REAL spritzer has a
sassy flare to it, infused with a floral fusion of rose, jasmine, magnolia and a touch of peach.

Furthermore,the spritzer can also be used as room and linen spray.

Treat yourself with the Be You range, you deserve it!

Gift sets

Speaking of holidays, Bramley’s luxurious gift sets make for the perfect pamper Christmas gift.

Consisting of a tissue oil, hand cream and body lotion, the gift sets are available in both magnolia and lavender.

Magnolia Gift Set, R 29.99
Infused with a luxuriously rich floral fragrance that combines the scents of Magnolia, Carnation and Rose and enriched with Vitamin E and Bio-Pharm Oil to keep your skin hydrated and protected.

The magnolia gift set contains the following products:
 Hydrating tissue oil (100ml) that will leave your skin feeling soft, smooth and delightfully fragranced.
 Warmly scented and fast absorbing hand cream (45ml) that will leave your hands feeling silky and smooth.
 A moisturising body lotion rich in vitamin E and Bio-Pharm oil (60ml) that is easily absorbed and will leave your skin feeling soft to the touch.

Lavender Gift Set, R 29.99
From its delicate purple hue to its earthy floral scent and calming effect.

Bramley’s Lavender gift set consists
of the following products:
 Fragranced tissue oil (100ml) that is easily absorbed into the skin, leaving no extra oily residue behind. Leaves skin feeling soft and supple with a radiant glow.
 Hand Cream (45ml) formulated with a calming herbal aroma that will leave your hands feeling velvety soft.
 A moisturising body lotion rich in vitamin E and Bio-Pharm oil (60ml) that is easily absorbed and will leave your skin feeling silky soft.

All Bramley products are available at selected PEP stores.

Posted in babies, Events, Health & Wellness, Mamma bears, Parenting, pregnancy, Toddlers

International Babywearing week 30 September – 6 October

Posted on by Judy

This week sees the start of the International Babywearing week.

A week long opportunity to celebrate, promote, advocate and educate about the many benefits of baby wearing.

The theme for 2019 is “CONTINUING TRADITION” and I encourage you to share your thoughts on this topic in the comments below.

What is babywearing?

Babywearing has been practiced around the world for centuries and includes wearing your baby or toddler close to you in a sling, wrap or carrier, as you go about your day.

Babywearing has been gaining popularity in recent years as a form of attachment parenting.

The benefits of babywearing

There are many benefits to babywearing, they include :

  • Good for development as a baby who is carried is closer to mom and can study facial expressions, learn language and be familiar with body language.
  • Your baby may cry less and get a better quality of sleep and so improve their immune system.
  • Improve bonds with siblings as parents have free hands and are able to give more attention to siblings.
  • Helps premature babies gain weight and thrive as skin to skin contact is vital for babies born premature.
  • Good for hips when done correctly can assist to develop strong, healthy hip joints.
  • Can reduce colic as babies who are wborn tend to cry less.
  • Gives parents the freedom and confidence to perform other tasks.
  • Allows for a stronger bonding experience between baby and the wearer.
  • Can help with post natal depression as moms feel less guilty when wearing baby.
  • Keeps strangers away and stops them from just touching baby.
  • Helps mom lose the baby weight as you use more energy carrying yor baby than pushing a stroller.
  • Allows mom to feed on the go if you are breastfeeding.
( source : www.babywearing.org)

My babywearing journey

I started my parenting journey in 1992 and remember being given a baby carrier.

This was a simple device that clipped onto me, that I refused to use until my baby was a plump 5 months old in fear of her falling out.

Four years later as the mom of a now preschooler, a toddler and a new born I fished out the carrier again as I needed some free hands whilst shopping or cleaning the house.

I never saw this as baby wearing only as a way to free my hands to get things done.

In 2003 my youngest daughter was born and I met a fellow mom who wore her baby in bright handmade coloured slings. She seemed a bit eccentric to me.

Whilst I had a fancy pram to gently lay my baby down in she would pick up her little one and strap him to her back or slip him into his sling.

When I fell pregnant with Hamish, I had gained much more knowledge on the benefits of babywearing and my eccentric friend no longer looked so crazy.

One of my first purchases for Hamish was a ring sling.

But I broke my leg 3 weeks into our parenting journey with Hamish and spent much of his first year immobile. So baby wearing sadly did not become the part of our journey I had hoped it would be.

Still there were days when he fussed a little too much or when he was ill that I would bundle him into the sling (which I’m sure I always wore wrong)

Brent would use the sling for Hamish if we went out, keeping him close by.

Being on crutches I couldn’t carry Hamish and am greatful for the sling as it not only kept our little one safe and secure, it allowed for a stronger bond with Brent who became his primary carer if we were out.

I remember the one day in particular, Hamish hadn’t slept all day. His chest was bad and I was beginning to think he just wasn’t going to sleep at all.

The sling was in the car with Brent at work, I was stuck upstairs unable to move very far with a heavy cast on my leg and close to tears at my own frustration of not being able to stand up and rock my unhappy baby.

In desperation, I remembered my friend from so many years ago with her colourful handmade slings, grabbed a sarong and made a make shift sling to slip Hamish into.

A few seconds later, he slept for the first time in hours without fussing.

For us, baby wearing was a way to strenthen our bond, keep our little man safe and secure and to comfort him when he needed to be close to us.

Do you babywearing?

Posted in babies, Brands we love, Mamma bears, pregnancy

Natura Moms and Baby Range

Posted on by Judy

Hamish and I were recently sent a gorgeous gift hamper from Natura, containing some of their new Moms and baby range to try.


I am a firm believer in the Natura tissue salts and have used their range extensively so I was excited to try these new products.


About Naturas New Moms And Baby Range


Natura’s new mom and baby range offers gentle and effective, quality solutions through their trusted homeopathic remedies.

From morning sickness and breastfeeding to colic and teething this comprehensive range have a remedy for many of the common niggles moms and babies have.

What’s really great is that all the remedies are prepared as quick dissolving tablets,making it much easier to administer to babies and toddlers.


Products in the range


There are 17 products in the range.

For Mom

  • Prolak
    • Used for lactation, this supports the production of milk and eases with pain associated with breastfeeding.

  • Moton
    • Used for morning sickness, this assists with nausea and vomiting in the mornings and is useful if you are suffering from dreadful persistent nausea. It also assists with severe water brash.

  • O4 Serum
    • The O4 serum is a stretchmarm reduction gel and is used to reduce the appearance of blemishes associated with stretch marks and scars. It evens the skin tone. Offers intense moisturising and hydrated the skin. It is quickly absorbed to  improve the skin’s elasticity and suppelness without leaving an oily residue.

  • Nipella
    • Used to soothe and protect sore and cracked nippels. This cream 8s GMO free, 100% natural, contains no fragrances or preservatives.



    For Baby

  • Rescue
    • Used if baby is distressed,  tearful, restless, has anxiety or fears or for emotional shock.

  • Arnica D6
    • These are for those every day bumps and bruises or sore muscles.

  • Castro
    • You can use this for baby sniffles like runny nose, post natal drip, nasal congestion and thick sticky tears.

  • Dental
    • These ease teething. Use for painful gums,difficult teething, delayed teething, emotional crying caused by teething and to ease the teething runny tummy symptoms.

  • Kolik
    • For little ones suffering from colic, persistent crying, crying after feeding and if they have a flushed face from crying.

  • Snappy nappy
    • This cute barrier cream contains zinc oxide, soothing calendula and aloe vera to soothe sensitive bottoms.
    It also contains bees wax to act as a barrier against the moisture in your little ones nappy. With no parabens, colorant or fragrance you know this is a gentle product.

    For Mom and Baby

  • Karma Sleep
    • Used for sleeplessness, especially if you have difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep. Also good for restless sleep or changes in your sleeping pattern.

  • Ezin cough
    • Used for md wet and dry coughs.

  • Starlite
    • This product is used for sore throats, coughs, mild fevers and stuffy or runny noses.

  • Magen
    • Used for indigestion, bloating, motion sickness, heartburn or nausea after eating.

  • Kronolax
    • This is used for constipation, difficulty passing stools and to ease abdominal discomfort.

  • Danon
    • This runny tummy remedy is used for diarrhea, loose water stools or involuntary stool movement.


    Our experience


    Not being a lactating mom, we passed some of our samples onto 2 moms who could use them but we did try the awesome bath products.

  • Double Bubble
    • This 3 in 1 body wash, shampooanx bubble bath contains Calendula and Camomile making it the perfect combination to calm Hamish after a busy day.

    He loved the smell, I loved how soft his skin felt after his bath.

    All the ingredients are of natural origin and it has no colorant or Parabens.

    There were sufficient bubbles and it doesn’t leave a stain or mark on the bath.

    Of course I love that I only need one product to clean my busy boy with.

  • Calicalm
    • This calming Calendula and Lavender bath and massage oil could not have arrived at a better time as Hamish hurt his leg at school.

    So I massaged his leg with a little of this to calm him and dropped a few drops into his bath.

    The bottle contains a cute hippo and he was convinced the hippo remedy made his leg feel better.

    I love that this range of personal care products has cute animals on the containers. 

    I also love that when developing these products Natura sourced raw materials which are of natural origin, making them organic or Eco-cert approved, and from sustainable resources.

    You can purchase Natura products at Diskem or Clicks.

    To find out more http://www.natura.co.za

    Posted in All about Mamma bear, Mamma bears

    Be a woman of worth

    Posted on by Judy

    Many years ago I read this scripture thinking wow ! That woman is amazing ….I hope I can be like that one day.

    Then life happened …. I grew! I made good choices, I made bad choices and so often I looked at this beautiful scripture and I ticked off each thing that I wasn’t instead of looking to the things I was.

    Many years later I realise even on my worst days I am a woman of worth!

    So, what is a woman of worth?

    A woman of worth to me is someone who uplifts and encourages others, no matter what she is personally going through.

    A woman of worth inspires you through her experiences as much as she does her daily life.

    Someone who shows courage in the face of adversity or stands up for her beliefs, even at the risk of standing alone.

    A woman of worth is loyal, to her family and friends. She supports them with enthusiasm and lifts them up when they are down.

    A woman of worth loves fiercely and unconditionally.

    She is above all else…kind. knowing that kindness will soften even the harshest words and hold a broken heart together.

    She forgives easily.

    She is trustworthy. She doesn’t need to use her words or your secrets to hurt anyone or betray a confidence.

    She is Grace filled and wise enough to use her words to help and heal. She is honest but tactful. She is kind but stern when needed.

    A woman of worth leaves you richer for having known her.

    To all the Women of worth in my circle …. thank you for inspiring me to be the best version of myself

    Posted in Mamma bears, Parenting

    Why moms are so tired

    Posted on by Judy

    According to new research being a mom is the equivalent of 2 and a half full time jobs.

    An American study asks why are moms so tired ?

    An American study done found that moms worked an average of 98 hours a week.

    An average work week is usually 40 hours…. That’s more than double the amount of time.

    In this particular survey, 2000 moms of children age 5 to 12, were interviewed.

    It was found that the average mom started work at 6.23am and ended their day at 8.31pm

    They also discovered that these moms only found and hour and seven minutes of time for themselves and this was usually in the bathroom showering, unaccompanied.

    Even on their free time, a mom is still busy with tasks and chores that need to be done.

    Weekends were reported as just as busy with shopping, social engagements, sports and birthday parties.

    Staggering statistics

    Some of the statistics were staggering.

    Of the 2000 moms interviewed

    • 40% felt their life was a series of never ending tasks
    • While 70 % were most pressured about providing healthy diets for their children.

    As a whole the survey highlighted just how demanding the role of mom is and the multitude of tasks a mother performs weekly.

    How moms are coping

    With the stress of everyone needing something from mom, the need for self care and good mental health should be highlighted.

    To discover how the moms who were interviewed coped, a survey was taken of the “life savers” mom relied to relax and regroup her energy.

    These were some of the results

    • Grandparents
    • Babysitters
    • Wine
    • Netflix
    • Takeaway meals
    • Drive through a
    • Healthy snacks
    • Toys
    • Ipads
    • Coffee
    • Naps ( when they could)

    Sound like your week?

    I think it can be concluded that moms are amazingly selfless, so, when you see a tired mom, offer to help in a practical way …. After all we all would love someone to make us coffee or wash the dishes without us asking.

    Posted in Mamma bears

    Dear mom who can’t hold on

    Posted on by Judy

    Today I was scrolling through a community page and I saw that a young girl I assisted commited suicide.I don’t know her personally, although I had met her once, but I followed her story.I watched from behind the scenes, having been a teen mom myself, cheering her successes and looking if we had any means to help her on her set backs.I had and still have so much admiration for this young girl who was trying her hardest to give her son a future.I remember one night she collected a tin of milk and nappies Hamish couldn’t use and she was gentle, polite and so proud as I asked after her son.I don’t know her full circumstances. I will never try to speculate them.

    But as a mother….

    I know how alone and desperate she must have felt. How fearful for her son’s future and mostly how she must have believed she failed him.And so, the world became too much and there’s a young boy who is no longer tucked in by his mommy or read a bedtime story. He will no longer get a warm kiss or night time cuddle. No longer can he lie against her chest and feel safe in her loving arms.This has upset me all day.

    Why?

    We read about terrible things all the time. I’m no stranger to teen suicide or the harshness of this world.

    So why this one story ….

    Because each time I look at Hamish, who is almost the same age as this little boy, I wonder how he would live without mommy and I see images of a lost, lonely, confused little boy.

    I see how young this girl was and I see my own elder children. How does a parent live with this level of loss? And I think how much the world has changed in my many years of parenting. The village is no longer a group of wizened grey haired mother’s passing down their knowledge or holding a new mom’s hand through her darkness.Today moms are in competition for everything. We as society have become so self absorbed we’ve forgotten to look at our neighbour and check she is ok.We’ve forgotten that kindness costs nothing. If you are a mom who needs to talk. If you need someone to listen or advise. If you looking for answers, I may not have them but I promise we can find someone who does ….

    Please contact me !

    Let me loan you my strength. Please don’t let your children wake up without you tomorrow ….they need you….just as you are.

    You can email me funmammasa29@gmail.com

    Or DM on any of my social media platforms ♥️